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"Gay loneliness"

Discussion in 'Off Topic' started by Raisin Hell, Mar 5, 2017.

  1. I went to see the Grace Jones documentary alone and felt empowered. Why miss a movie you like just because no-one else wants to go.
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  2. I watched 95% of my movie alone. Well I actually don't mind it, it's just watching other people having a good time sometimes would make me feel bad. But I guess when the movie starts it really does not affect me that much.
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  3. You don't know anything about those other people in the screening. For all you know, they could be putting on a facade.
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  4. I watch films in a cinema alone all the time. It helps me to focus in watching the film. I can't really do that when I'm touching another guy's hand or crotch.
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  5. Plus, now that you've just turned 18, this opens up a whole new set of films for you to do dubious things in public to!
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  6. I prefer it. You're all sitting in the dark looking at a massive screen, no-one really cares that you've come to watch the movie alone.

    I'll go and watch a movie again by myself if I've gone to see it with other people. It's easier to focus on what's going on, and I get the whole box of popcorn to myself.
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  8. Going to the cinema or dining alone are wonderful experiences and everyone should do it. Are you afraid of being judged? Being alone with your thoughts? Not filling every waking moment with someone else to distract you from the fact that we entered this world alone and will exit it just the same?

    It’s nice to do stuff solo. It really is.
  9. It's great to experience a movie with friends sometimes but nobody should feel that they have to. Me and a mate went to see every Hunger Games film together as we were big fans of the books, and it was something we actively looked forward to, but most of the time I am happy to go alone because I can switch off and enjoy the movie and not spend a day and half trying to coordinate people.
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  10. I have done the whole going to a coffee shop, grabbing a drink and a piece of cake and sit inside, chill and read my book and that was quite lovely. I'm not sure how comfortable I'd feel going to a restaurant and eating alone though.
  11. Seriously why though? What’s the difference? I hope I’m not being aggressive, but I’m curious where this unwillingness to do something by yourself comes from.
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  12. Nowhere. I have done plenty I'm just gauging others perception of it.
  13. I went to see some cheap-ass horror movie on my own once and two girls turned to me and were all like "aww we'll be your friend!" Told those Becky's I was reviewing it for the local rag.

    Leave me in peace and let me enjoy my dead teen carnage without you texting or asking "what do I know her from?" every 8 minutes.
  14. This tea.

    I really don't notice or care about what strangers are doing alone in a restaurant or in a cinema, so why would anyone really take an interest in what I'm doing?

    I'm currently living in Amsterdam (where I am going to be for the next three months). I know absolutely no one in the city and it has been wonderful to discover that I very much can go to a restaurant by myself, or go solo to a concert without any friends to accompany me. In fact, in some ways, it can be better because you never have to compromise or where you go, what you do, or how long you stay.

    I completely get that it's a process, but learning to be by yourself and enjoy your own company is honestly one of the most wonderful things in life to develop because it really is a massive step towards self-love.
  15. Dining alone is fantastic if you get the right place and you're not feeling a bit fragile or low. If I'm in a good mood I'll grab a window seat, order a glass of wine, and pig the fuck out. I'll watch the world go by or check out a few newspaper articles on my phone. It's blissful to just be able to take that time out for yourself.
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  16. Just pretend to be busy when you're in a coffee shop or restaurant, if you're alone. No one would mind. I do it all the time. Checking the crowd would just make you lonely that you are really eating by yourself. Anyway, just embrace being a loner.
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  17. I need to be social and in other people's company, but I do have my moments where I just want to be alone and enjoy it. I don't need to "look busy" or anything, just doing nothing by yourself can feel freeing.
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  18. Is it bad that noone contacts to me for any social event and i end up alone everytime unless i'm the one who is taking the first step? I am a bit tired of trying to make myself busy all the damn time.
  19. Yesterday I went for coffee and cake alone and today and took an early evening trip to the cinema by myself.
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  20. And now that someone invited me to a gathering tonight, my introverted self kicked in and i said no to them. I fucking hate myself...

    And yeah i'm coming out to my family on the phone this week dd. I was today but my sister is pregnant and she is a bit ill so i decided to spare them from the "bad news."

    Someone just end my suffering already.