Discussion in 'Off Topic' started by Itty Bitty Piggy, May 1, 2016.
Me last weekend. I was actually getting depressed cos I had nothing to do.
I've never been in a relationship before, and lately I've been so sad about it. I feel like crying because another year is ending and I will be alone this Christmas. My crushes from my condominium building are ignoring me.
I am also just kinda tired of having sex with so many guys. Like every time I meet a hot guy either from Grindr or like a cruising place or just the mall. Then after we are done having sex, they gave me their number but its either they will reply small messages or don't respond at all. I also easily get infatuated when a guy shows me kindness and I am such a hopeless romantic person thinking that this could be the guy. But of course, it is just one of my many 1 and done sex trips. I am just tired of it all. I cannot even get a date. Like I have zero date this year but I've been with at least 50 guys for sex. I just feel so sad thinking about it. I feel like I would have been taken along time ago if only one of those guys liked me. I should be so lucky in love!
As someone looking in from the outside it sounds to me like you need to break the cycle that you are in. Could you reduce/stop the casual hook ups? It sounds like you are hoping that they might turn into something long term, but that doesn't seem to be working. Plus, the short term 'high' followed by a sense of rejection surely isn't helping how you feel at the moment. I'd suggest taking some time to focus on yourself. Break the hook up cycle and stay open to finding someone through other more organic ways.
A fourth date. WHAT AM I DOING?
A blowie at the very least.
A straight couple I know who were perfect in every conceivable way have just broken up. I think I'm more shocked and heartbroken than they are.
I was like this when Jamie and Louise Redknapp broke up.
Are they still separated or have they already filed for divorce? I wish the best for Louise.
I've no idea, I was so sad when I heard they were separated. I don't really follow celeb gossip so I'm not sure what the situation is now.
Send me a moody scowling selfie
Me after sending it to you:
I don't think I've ever met a guy named Tom who I haven't fancied.
This reminds me I've yet to meet a Sean I didn't hate
I went on date #2 with the guy formerly known as out of my league, and it went really well! Lots of open and casual flirting, which I haven't experienced in a while, but one thing really stuck out to me. He reminded me so so much of my ex from my last serious relationship. From his smile down to his voice and mannerisms and personality, it was eerily similar at moments. Not in a bad way, and plenty of those attributes were what made me crush over my ex in the first place, but it's odd to find myself stumbling on them again.
A couple months ago I met a guy on Tinder which happened to be an exboyfriend from a guy I used to be friends with. At first I had a lot of doubts about it because a lot of people told me he was a jerk and that he was just not worth it considering the "relationship" I was coming from. Anyway, I didn't care and went out with him. The first date was amazing I felt like we really clicked, then he disappeared for a while, came back like nothing happened but he was very distant. One day we went to the club and he kissed me but the next day he wouldn't talk about it or acknowledge what happened even when I tried. A week later I invited him to my house and after having a long conversation about our lives it was obvious what was going to happen next but for some reason I always paralyze when it comes to sex so I told him that I would give him a ride home. On the way to his house everything felt very awkward and we didn't talk. I have seen him a couple of times after that but I feel like that chemistry we had on the first date Is gone. Sometimes it feels like he Is actually trying but then he doesn't reply my texts or acts like he doesn't give a fuck. I was trying to be patient because he Is 5 Years younger than me but I am starting to feel very confused. I don't know what to do because I think that if he actually opens up everything would be incredible but I just don't know what he wants.
If he really wanted to, he should've. Sadly, there are times when we need to stop making excuses for other people. This is one.
Honestly if he's acting that way and a lot of people told you he's a jerk (and he's definitely coming off as one), to me it doesn't really look like something worth pursuing, especially if you're actually looking for a relationship.
I definitely agree he doesn't seem like someone worth pursuing, not the way he's treating you. You cannot be expected to wait for him to sort himself out, or worse to sort him out yourself. It might be a pattern, especially if you have been warned.
I'm sorry you're going through this, because it must hurt. But please, put yourself first, @Blackout Zone.
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