I'm seeing Rita in Birmingham later today. I'm looking forward to it in terms of the fact that I'm sure she'll put on a great show, and I've liked so many singles. Like most of you though, I'm disappointed with the problematic nature of 'Girls'... and with Rita herself. "I wrote this song as a celebration, if people can’t see that it’s their problem." - wow. All of this has really put a dampener on my goodwill towards her. I only tend to lurk here, but this thread has been a great place to find well-reasoned and articulate points of view, so thank you for that. I've quoted a few replies to some friends - mainly other gay men, who have mostly maintained the stance that Girls is just a harmless bop, and that the likes of Hayley and Kehlani were overreacting... which has certainly lead to some heated exchanges! It's really opened my eyes to how some people don't take the concerns of queer women with the seriousness and respect they deserve, and judging by Rita's comment on stage tonight, that includes her too. That's honestly really sad. In terms of LGBT voices being listened to and respected, be it through music or other forms, I really thought 2018 was showing signs of being very progressive. Apparently a lot of people still have a 2008 frame of mind! I've been shocked to see that some Rita fans have targeted Hayley Kiyoko, placing blame on her for "forcing Rita to come out". Hayley was well within her rights as a queer female artist to share her concerns about the song lyrics, in relation to her own experiences and of the community at large. To even think that this contribution has "forced Rita to come out", let alone have people call her out for it, is absurd. Honestly, I really don't read Rita's statement as being a coming out moment - and far less as a forced one. All she did, beyond apologising for others being offended, was to reiterate what her purposefully released song alluded to in the first place. She put that out there herself. Where is the force? As far as I can see, at no point has Rita attributed "Bisexual" as a label to herself, so I find it curious that various news articles and her Wikipedia page now declares that she has come out as bisexual, using her pretty open-ended statement as a source. Rita is well within her rights not to label herself publicly, and she may very well be a part of the LGBT community. That's great. However, even if she is, that really doesn't excuse her from (seemingly) being wilfully ignorant to the plights of a community that she alludes she is a part of. If anything, that is more of a head-scratcher than if she was actually straight. Right now, the tactic seems to be to go on the defensive and to deflect, and that's really not cool - she needs to start listening and learning. Do better, Rita.