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Discussion in 'Off Topic' started by Runawaywithme, Mar 9, 2020.

  1. Are there any fellow PJ ADHD'ers? It might be nice to have a wee place to discuss the various trials and tribulations of living with this disorder. It's been kicking my ass latley, I'm really considering medication but for some reason I just feel kinda icky about it, and I don't even know why. If this inappropriate feel free to delete.
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  2. Didn't know this thread existed! ADHD has been kicking my ass lately and stress is catching up with me big time.

    I feel like I'm just a few days away from a complete mental breakdown, so that's something to look forward to.
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  3. I forgot I made this thread! It's nice to know there is somone else out there. To be honest I constantly feel like I'm on the edge of a mental breakdown - I usually end up just trying to wing it and hope for the best. I hope you feel better soon though, it can really suck sometimes.
  4. I’m going to a psychologist at the weekend to ask about a possible ADHD diagnosis. After years of struggling with organizational skills, barely getting through university because I could never seem to get my head down, never paying any of my bills until it was too late, and being so flaky with plans that I lost a lot of potential friendships in the process, I’ve had enough.

    This week I’ve been off due to a Covid outbreak in my workplace and despite having nothing but time, my apartment is still a mess and I haven’t managed to take the trash out or do anything that I need to. I always told myself it might just be that I’m depressed, or it’s just my anxiety or maybe even just laziness. It’s not that I don’t want to do these things, I just can’t seem to tell my brain to do something about it. As much as I love my parents mental health is something that was never really discussed in my family and whenever I tried to seek help I was often shut down, that it was normal for a teenager and were told things would ‘get better.’ I guess since I never knew anything different I never gave it too much thought. That perhaps everyone went through these things, ‘adulting’ is hard and I just wasn’t trying hard enough. I would and still do beat myself up about many things. I always did wonder though why I could be so hyper focused for hours on things I enjoyed, like art when I couldn’t sit down and read a book for more than 5 minutes. I guess it makes sense.

    Hopefully some, any kind of diagnosis can help out my mind at ease, even just a little. I may be getting a little ahead of myself here but I’m not sure about medication. Does anyone have experience taking ADHD medication? What’s it like?
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  5. I keep wondering whether I have ADHD or not, especially ever since I found out my biological mom, half-sister, and nephew all have it. My psychiatrist says I don't and it's my GAD instead, but I keep what iffing.

    Also, there is something that's been happening more frequently since the pandemic started - not necessarily related to the pandemic itself, I just noticed it around that time. I'm taking a lot of time to respond to people in simple things like saying yes/no/thank you/good night, etc. For example, my mom says "thank you" to me, I "get" that sentence immediately, but it's like there is a "barrier" that doesn't let me instantly reply, so my response gets "delayed" and I say "you're welcome" like 5 seconds later. Did any of you have to deal with that?
  6. I haven’t had that specifically but there’s a thing that I do where I don’t end up replying to people for.. no good reason at all. More so online, but I’ll be in a conversation and half way through I just.. don’t reply? I don’t know if it’s just me having trouble keeping a conversation going but I will say to myself ‘ I’ll do it.. later’ and then days can go by of me being anxious about replying and turn it into a whole thing when it never needed to get to that point. I feel like I lose a lot friendships to shit like that.

    If you’re worried maybe you could look into getting a second opinion?
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  7. I do get what you mean - I had never really thought about it. However sometimes my reactions to things are delayed, like if a freind jumps out to scare me or there's a loud bang - I'll scream or react about five seconds too late. So that probably has something to do with it.

    I'd definitely say that if you think it's a concern get a second opinion - I was diagnosed as a child so I can't really remember what the process was like - but I know that with pepole who were diagnosed as adults - it was a huge relief.
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  8. Okay girls so,

    I went to the psychiatrist here in Japan on Saturday. He ‘diagnosed’ me (which wasn’t really exactly a diagnosis but basically just ‘Yeah you seem to have a lot of symptoms in common with ADHD’) and then proceeded to give me Strattera. He said he couldn’t give me ‘stimulants’ because here in Japan they are a controlled substance so I would need an official diagnosis. And when I asked him if he couldn’t give me one he said I’d need to go back to the UK and get a diagnosis back there and come back to Japan and then I’d be able to. That, or present various documents from childhood that indicate I may have ADHD, which is bullshit seeing as I obviously don’t have anything like that anymore. Like aren’t psychiatrists supposed to be able to diagnose someone? It’s part of the job, no? Kind bullshit if you ask me.

    Anyway I started to take the medicine he gave me and the side effects are pretty bad, not gonna lie. If this medication doesn’t work I’m gonna see about getting a second opinion somewhere else, teebs.

    I’ll let you know it goes
  9. I've had a lot of ADD symptoms since I can remember but I'm also on the spectrum, so I don't know where one ends and the other begins. I just know that I've been dealing with rejection sensitive dysphoria and lately it's been hell. Like, I can't even type a post, I can't even reach out to another person because I'm not good enough. I cried a little during zoom call where we were introducing ourselves a bit to our general manager because I'm so ashamed of not having a life. All I have is neurodivergence. I wouldn't disclose this in front of team at work cause I don't feel comfortable taking such risks, but I'm going off topic here.. I can't keep up with my own thoughts. I've had a coffee in the morning and now it's like my brain's about to explode.
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  10. It's how ADHD is diagnosed. The current understanding of it is that it doesn't just start in adulthood. To get diagnosed as an adult, you have to present evidence (can be school reports, or a statement from someone who knew you as a kid) that shows you had attention and/or hyperactivity issues as a child, and then usually a statement from another person who knows you as an adult and has been witness to how you have been affected. Then on top of that, you have to do a test with the psychiatrist.

    Getting diagnosed in the UK is a pain. There are several year long waits on the NHS, and can be 6 month+ waits with private psychiatrists.
  11. Mmm, thanks for this. It sounds like an uphill battle. If I could use a statement in place of an actual school report then I could probably have my parents vouch for me. My cousin also has ADHD (officially diagnosed) and my brother was also thought to have it but mental health isn’t even recognized very well even now, never mind in the 80’s. So it looks like it may run in the family.

    I wonder if my best bet is to go back to the UK and go private. I’d have to give the life I made here up, tho so not sure if it’s worth it at the moment.

    I guess I’ll just keep on taking the current meds and see if it works for me for now. I may consult with a psychologist though just to get an overall picture. I’m still not exactly sure if even if I paid the super expensive prices for a diagnosis in English here in Japan if it would even be recognized in the UK..
  12. Got curious and googled today and indeed it is quicker to train as a pharmacist, get a job at Boots and steal ADHD meds than to be prescribed them on the NHS. You couldn’t make it up.
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  13. I've basically given up trying. Whenever I go and ask for them, I feel like they just change the subject or fob me off on some kind of SSRI which works for a while but then stops as it isn't treating the root cause. Mine has got a lot worse these last few weeks - I'm basically unable to do anything. I'm in the process of applying to masters courses and really exicted about it but also very nervous and trying to get any worthwhile work done just feels impossible. I'm considering going back to the GP's but honestly I don't know what they can do at this stage. I'm somewhat screwed, unless I can somehow find a private ADHD specialist but who knows how much that would cost/how to go about finding one.
  14. Mvnl

    Mvnl Staff Member

    With extremely diagnosis-eager parents I sometimes wonder if I'm not overdiagnosed just a weee bit but on paper, check: ADHD + ASS! Basically chronically bored and overwhelmed at the same time. 10/10, would not recommend.
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  15. I think I have something like this. It's like this feeling of something constantly inside of me tormenting me over the smallest things. Like always expecting to get punished for saying or doing something.
  16. Are you on a waiting list for a specialist? It makes no sense the way the system works even if your diagnosis was a long time ago, it’s ridiculous to put up so many barriers to care.
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  17. Nope. I've asked countless times but they always just try and fob me off as having a temporary mental health issue, even though they know it's way worse than that. I just feels like no one in the system cares or listens. I feel hopeless and borderline humiliated.
  18. I liken it to permanently living your life on a fairground waltzer. I also find ADHD becomes more pronounced with age.
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  19. Hey ADHD sistren,

    So as I said before here in Japan my doctor wouldn’t prescribe me a stimulant without a prior diagnosis of ADHD. Well I went to a different clinic today for a second opinion and after a fair bit of talking and a couple of tests things seem to be looking up! I told him that the Strattera I was prescribed just wasn’t working for me. After a month and a half the side effects were/are really outweighing any possible benefits.

    Anyway, he said it -was- possible for him to prescribe me Concerta but put me on Inituiv (Welbrutin) for the time being as he said the side effects of Concerta were worse. Kinda sounded like he was trying to gate keep it from me but, well, I didn’t wanna sound too eager to be put on Concerta as the whole conversation surrounding any kind of stimulant drug here is met with suspicion. I mean, hopefully the Intuitiv works and I won’t need to take Concerta but after Ms. Strattera I have my doubts with SSRI like ADHD medication.

    Anyway, at least this psychiatrist seems to be more open to diagnosing me, at least.
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