Anxiety
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I don’t know what to do anymore.
I’m really struggling to enjoy life now because I’m constantly worrying about every little detail of everything. It’s affecting my work and friendships. I’m such a negative person but I don’t know what to do about it.
I’m losing my sense of hope and excitement because I have the constant fear that something is going to go wrong.
I don’t like the idea of therapy or any kind of drugs but I don’t know any other alternatives.
I’m really struggling to enjoy life now because I’m constantly worrying about every little detail of everything. It’s affecting my work and friendships. I’m such a negative person but I don’t know what to do about it.
I’m losing my sense of hope and excitement because I have the constant fear that something is going to go wrong.
I don’t like the idea of therapy or any kind of drugs but I don’t know any other alternatives.
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You need to try therapy, and I'm also gonna encourage you to be open to meds. I am happy to help you get things scheduled. I waited way too long the last time my anxiety got to this toxic level. It's making you suffer, and we don't want that! Therapy hasn't been a miracle cure but the one thing it did do was save me from the worst anxiety episode I've ever had: it was a gradual process, but I felt better after every session and the regular reassurance was the best part of my week back then.
My citalopram SSRI does a phenomenal job of keeping that particular brand of neurotic hyper fixated anxiety from invading my well-being. In fact that's how I'd describe what its mechanism of action feels like to me. And my brain was clearly depleted because it sopped that shit right up and I was feeling the effects within 2 hours. It ushered in a golden period in my life at a time where it made all the difference. All that hoping seemed to be made manifest.
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Echoing the good sis @Your Pretty Brains, I strongly recommend therapy. Personally, it has been crucial in slowly breaking negative thought patterns that occur when anxiety creeps back in. Usually, I'll get overwhelmed, pretty much paralyzed, and it'll lead to avoidance behaviors with all its consequences (school, work, relationships...). It has been debilitating and the amount of self-loathing it has brought me... far too much.
Over the years, I gained a sense of self-awareness about how my brain works through therapy. At this point, it's more about reprogramming it so I can manage those anxiety symptoms on a daily basis and not fall into my old, bad patterns again. Sure, there's lots of trial and error in the process. It takes time to untangle this, the roots and everything in order to fully drive behavior change. I can't say I'm there yet as I'm still figuring out which exact coping tools work for me in the long term and I'm also about to find out whether I need meds to help with all this, but one thing's sure: I would be in a much worse place if it wasn't for therapy overall.
I won't lie, progress is slow and non linear... but it's still progress! In that sense, I'm not the most consistent at it but keeping a journal to track my symptoms and my journey as a whole has been helpful. I feel like it makes me be kinder to myself.
With that being said, I acknowledge that I'm lucky to have found a therapist I can trust and who's also willing to try alternatives if a tool or a specific therapy doesn't work.
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Thanks both. A bit of context and background, I had a bad experience with mental health services when I was younger and it's always made me resent that approach.
I will have a look into it though to see what's available.
I will have a look into it though to see what's available.