Coming out stories

Numerology said:
Fanatical said:
3Xs said:
dmc said:
What I don't like is when people give me looks because to them I am a supposed 'straight' gay. They act as if I'm betraying my sexuality or something by not being as flamboyant/camp/etc as them. Newsflash people, this is my personality. If it is perceived as 'straight' by you tough. I'm not changing to suit your agendas.

My life.

Makes two of us.

And a third! I can't believe how many people i've met at university already that were incredibly poor at hiding their shock that I was gay. I don't get offended or anything but many people in today's society don't understand that camp and gay are not the same thing.

Not all french people eat frogs legs.

It's really strange how people always have certain expectations. Even other gay people. I remember once being forced to go to a gay bar b y my straight mates after watching a match (it was the only place that didn't check for ID and some of us were under-age). I got some amount of heterophobic abuse, because I was wearing a rugby jersey. Even more so when they found out I was gay, because apparently "i was trying to be straight".

My mate who had on a scarf and skinny jeans was getting followed around, which really amused his girlfriend. Not sure which was more disturbing, really.
 
citoig said:
because apparently "i was trying to be straight".

Ha!! This has happened to me a few weeks ago when one of my friends on last.fm (who is gay) told me I was "trying to be straight" because I was listening to Nas and Biggie.

Like....the fuck? Music taste has nothing to do with your sexual orientation!
 
That's patently not true.

She actually just sings at a frequency that only gay men, straight women and dogs can hear. Don't worry, it's a common mistake.
 
It's true! Look at this scientific equation:

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Aww, this is Dave Navarro's open letter to troubled LGBT teens, I love it. (Yeah it's long, but it's really worth it)

"Ok everybody, here is the deal. I cannot imagine what it’s like growing up in a close minded environment and being gay, bi or trans-gender. I don’t think any of us who aren’t can possibly imagine. The strength and character it must take to stay true to yourself in such an unforgiving microcosm are qualities that a major portion of the world lacks… Sad, but true. It’s just how it is at the moment. However, it’s that very strength and character that gives the world hope for a new way of thinking and acceptance in the future and when one of our children gives in and gives up, it is not only a tragedy but a victory for those who fear diversity. DO NOT LET THEM WIN!

I know how overwhelming the feelings can get and how small the reality can feel, but the bottom line is that this is but a drop in the bucket in terms of the magnitude of life. You can get through this. High school is full of plenty of bullies and fear based hate, as is the world. With any group of people comes a percentage of people who just don’t get it and probably will never get it. That’s OK. We all deal with this to an extent. The truth is that in High School, you are kind of stuck in the group you are a part of until graduation, but trust me… You can pick and choose who you associate with and there are plenty of like-minded people in the world that are understanding, accepting and loving. Sometimes, we just have to stick it out to meet them.

The hard cold reality is that once you have chosen suicide, that’s it. No going back. Sure, there is a public outcry and MAYBE the bullies feel remorse for a while, but it all dies down, life goes on, the bullies let the memory fade and get on with their lives. They learn to laugh, love, reach their goals and in many cases go on to have a full and productive life. Who loses? You do! Your family! Your friends! Other teens who need support in this area! Oh yeah… We all Lose! Now the world has one less mind that is open and different and unique and sensitive. Instead, we inherit the bullies, the fear, the set back… Our world has one less soul to help it evolve with a new level of clarity. Personally, I have seen a lot of darkness and tragedy that has felt insurmountable. The murder of my mother, my battle with drug addiction, the loss of friends and family. Utter depression and despair.

Of course the thought of suicide has crossed my mind a time or two. Let me share this. THANK GOD I never took that action. The friends I have made, the experiences I have had, the laughter I have shared would have all been missed. In hindsight, some of my darkest moments now seem so small and insignificant that I am amazed I gave them so much power at the time. I am even able to laugh about it now. When I think back to the times I have considered ending it all I end up saying to myself, “What was I thinking?”

To those of you contemplating such a course, please do us a favor. Seek counseling first. Find a network of people who have gone through what you are going through. Help others in even more turmoil than you. I am certain that you can find peace. As you know, our society and political climate is SO divided right now. We need your voice. The world at large needs your sheer existence in order to come to terms with itself and where we are going as a planet and species."
 
I did after the episode of Waterloo Road with the gay teacher in it. Mum seemed fine. Then called the council for 'advice' on what to do about it...

She's now convinced that it's a phase that I will grow out of, and insists that I don't tell my friends at the college that i've just moved to...
 
I laughed at "the council" bit. Like normally people phone help lines, talk to friends but never have I heard people call the council.

The laugh faded at the "its a phase" thing. Has anyone ever had a homo phase?
 
Oh my dear God. I cannot tolerate people who think homosexuality is a mental condition. One of my good friends recently told me that this was just a phase and that I would get over it. That or I have a serious mental problem and need to get counseling now. I about flipped when she called me a fag. Yeah. Thanks friend! Love ya too.
 
Nate said:
I laughed at "the council" bit. Like normally people phone help lines, talk to friends but never have I heard people call the council.

The laugh faded at the "its a phase" thing. Has anyone ever had a homo phase?
Yeah. Then they sent her a pack to give to me to help me deal with it... very odd...

My mums very cool about it, but she does seem convinced that it's a phase... she keeps buying me FHM!
 
do you mean a counsellor?
Nate said:
The laugh faded at the "its a phase" thing. Has anyone ever had a homo phase?
Oh loads of guys have, well in my personal experience.

I the vast majority of the time though I don't believe it was just a phase, to them it was just a phase, in reality it's just a matter of time before that phase comes back and bums them in the arse and is just day - to - day... usually in secret for a long time.
 
PutYourBootsOn said:
Nate said:
I laughed at "the council" bit. Like normally people phone help lines, talk to friends but never have I heard people call the council.

The laugh faded at the "its a phase" thing. Has anyone ever had a homo phase?
Yeah. Then they sent her a pack to give to me to help me deal with it... very odd...

My mums very cool about it, but she does seem convinced that it's a phase... she keeps buying me FHM!

Wow my local council have a pack about it? Can't wait to tell the homophobic members of my family, they'll love to hear what the council tax is being spent on, ha!

You could always send your FHMs to me.
 
lisaj said:
PutYourBootsOn said:
Nate said:
I laughed at "the council" bit. Like normally people phone help lines, talk to friends but never have I heard people call the council.

The laugh faded at the "its a phase" thing. Has anyone ever had a homo phase?
Yeah. Then they sent her a pack to give to me to help me deal with it... very odd...

My mums very cool about it, but she does seem convinced that it's a phase... she keeps buying me FHM!

Wow my local council have a pack about it? Can't wait to tell the homophobic members of my family, they'll love to hear what the council tax is being spent on, ha!

You could always send your FHMs to me.

Yeah, abeit a very poorly put together pack which is bright pink and tells me to go to some crappy youth group.

And i'm 'fraid the FHMs went in the recycling long ago... well except the Gabriella Cilmi one which is part of my clippings collection :)
 
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slimane

PutYourBootsOn said:
lisaj said:
PutYourBootsOn said:
Nate said:
I laughed at "the council" bit. Like normally people phone help lines, talk to friends but never have I heard people call the council.

The laugh faded at the "its a phase" thing. Has anyone ever had a homo phase?
Yeah. Then they sent her a pack to give to me to help me deal with it... very odd...

My mums very cool about it, but she does seem convinced that it's a phase... she keeps buying me FHM!

Wow my local council have a pack about it? Can't wait to tell the homophobic members of my family, they'll love to hear what the council tax is being spent on, ha!

You could always send your FHMs to me.
which is part of my clippings collection

Bless you! I used to cut pictures out of magazines when I was younger. I like La Cilmi aswell...she's way better than Pixie Lott.
 
I just moved to a new university, and it feels like being in the closet for the first time in years. Now I have to do this all over again.

I don't know how to start yet, because I've met some guys I like to hang around with and I don't want to alienate them right away. People were always cool with it if they found out after they knew me a little bit better, and I'm kinda afraid to just be 'the gay guy' if it's the first thing I tell them.

But it's a fine line between being cautious and somehow denying who you are. And I'm still surprised how people in this day and age just assume that you are straight.
 
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