Dating & Relationships

The girlfriend moved to a motel (but my brother is still with her) but now my mom discovered one of her rings are gone. My mom told him that without directly accusing her and he got mad.
Family can be the biggest shackle around our ankles. Sometimes we need to protect ourselves. Just because we’re related by blood doesn’t mean they have the right to blow up everything we’ve worked for. Change the locks. Never let her in again.
 
Family can be the biggest shackle around our ankles. Sometimes we need to protect ourselves. Just because we’re related by blood doesn’t mean they have the right to blow up everything we’ve worked for. Change the locks. Never let her in again.
She'll definitely not step inside of that house again. Apparently some expensive glasses went missing too. And my brother in just in denial.
 
Apparently some expensive glasses went missing too. And my brother in just in denial.
Really sorry to hear that but I’ve learned over the years that peace of mind is priceless. It’s a lesson that cost me dearly, having shelled out a hefty sum to shield a relative from losses and still be seen as the enemy. I hope the fog clears soon and your brother regains clarity (although that’s likely to take time). For now, I’d steer clear if I were you and make sure your mum’s ok.
 
It just pisses me off that my brother thinks this girl can absolutely do no wrong despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary (she already fucked up my mom's car). He's being so fucking stupid it makes my head spin. He is usually smarter than this, if a bit naive at times.
 
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Officially back on Tinder until I find someone that loves me the way Luann loves Luann.

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Just rant here see if anyone else is feeling the same. I have just gotten so disheartened about dating or about meeting anyone anymore. Ive been on one date this year that went nowhere and then was ghosted by two guys that pressured me. living in a smaller town here so usually I am after dates but sometimes even when I look for fun its just all discreet guys. Ive gone to a stage where I just cant be bothered anymore I was thinking about going to a bigger city here for a night and see might that help a little spark come back. Just wondering is anyone else feeling something similar lately?
 
Oh, you definitely aren’t alone. I just rejoined the apps after a long break, but at the same time, I’m feeling more resigned about dating than ever.

I am of the opinion that one must put themselves out there to even be approached nowadays, and for any queer person, the apps are the main way to do it.

So I’m on the apps, and I’ll check them whenever I get bored, but otherwise not putting much stock in the game. Desperation (or “over enthusiasm”) puts you in weird situations, anyway.

I already un-matched a guy who answered me with one-word replies and didn’t ask me any questions in return. I just turned 34, I refuse to entertain bullshit anymore.
 
Oh, you definitely aren’t alone. I just rejoined the apps after a long break, but at the same time, I’m feeling more resigned about dating than ever.

I am of the opinion that one must put themselves out there to even be approached nowadays, and for any queer person, the apps are the main way to do it.

So I’m on the apps, and I’ll check them whenever I get bored, but otherwise not putting much stock in the game. Desperation (or “over enthusiasm”) puts you in weird situations, anyway.

I already un-matched a guy who answered me with one-word replies and didn’t ask me any questions in return. I just turned 34, I refuse to entertain bullshit anymore.
Yeah even though I know apps are going to majority be after one thing but in a smaller city it's kinda the only was as you say as a queer person to put yourself out there. I agree I turned 35 this year and think I've gone to such a stage to of not dealing with bullshit it's killing any spark or excitement for dating for me
 
I started to hang out with my brother again after his girlfriend moved out of my grandma's house, but now he won't stop texting her. It's fucking non stop. I left early because of it. It's a horrible feeling to know I'm less important than this girl who most likely stole from my mother. I tried to talk to him about the video game we played (that he kept pausing to text her) and he was so disengage because he was paying so much attention to his phone. This shit sucks.
 
Just rant here see if anyone else is feeling the same. I have just gotten so disheartened about dating or about meeting anyone anymore. Ive been on one date this year that went nowhere and then was ghosted by two guys that pressured me. living in a smaller town here so usually I am after dates but sometimes even when I look for fun its just all discreet guys. Ive gone to a stage where I just cant be bothered anymore I was thinking about going to a bigger city here for a night and see might that help a little spark come back. Just wondering is anyone else feeling something similar lately?
Kind of. I don’t think I like people enough to have a chance at a relationship. I’m still extremely traumatized from my last, so much so that I haven’t even attempted to date for three years.
 
The loss of a group of friends from a carefree time in your twenties is definitely all up in my feels at the moment after going through my 2017 photo collection, and instantly being transported back to that time. It´s funny how you can be so close to people and then drift apart to the point even a simple hi becomes forced, or unresponded to, but you will always have nothing but love for them and hope one day you might bump into them again.

I think it always hits different when you have shared some of your best times with someone, as 2017 was my first year living in Madrid, being able to live an openly gay life, before ending up in a toxic relationship the year after that started to put a strain on these friendships, and for the first time in my life I was able to be fully free and myself, which transpired into the people I surrounded myself with.

There was such a solid bond back then, and it seemed very much unbreakable. Then, as the years passed gradually the friend group became more and more like the final season of Girls dd, by 2020 everyone had ever moved away, fell out or drifted apart. I fell out with my closest friends from the group around then and even though I reconnected with one of them last year, they had also moved far away and outside of the memories and nostalgia, we didn´t have much in common anymore.

With the other, we actually reconnected back in the winter when he reached out and was in a really dark place. We ended up meeting up in the Spring, but he was so far gone off medications I didn´t recognise the bright guy who had been the first friend I´d made 7 years prior. I tried to help him and keep the communication going this year but despite my best efforts, it went back to unanswered calls and messages, and no-one can ever get hold of him these days which is really sad.

As for the others, we like each others posts and occasionally exchange pleasantries every now and then.
But it´s definitely bittersweet going down nostalgia lane thinking about how it was us against the world back in summer 2017.
 
Anyone else notice people tend to not respond on the apps over the weekend, then come Monday morning and all the responses come in? Dd, there seems to be a pattern here.
 
Just rant here see if anyone else is feeling the same. I have just gotten so disheartened about dating or about meeting anyone anymore. Ive been on one date this year that went nowhere and then was ghosted by two guys that pressured me. living in a smaller town here so usually I am after dates but sometimes even when I look for fun its just all discreet guys. Ive gone to a stage where I just cant be bothered anymore I was thinking about going to a bigger city here for a night and see might that help a little spark come back. Just wondering is anyone else feeling something similar lately?
I have... given up. I've had one proper date since 2018, there's no hope of meeting other gay men where I live. I've even lived in different states in Australia and it's always the same, such a weird vibe. I always feel like whenever I travel to other countries for a visit I end up meeting people though? I'm really envious of people who have a thriving gay scene where they live because I feel like my biggest barrier is I struggle to communicate online/get through the small talk barrier. In a gay pub though? I always meet people because I'm just better at face to face communication.

I hope one day I can move somewhere else with an actual social scene nn, meeting guys for dates would be great, but even just more gay people as friends. I'm just always so alone.
 
I have... given up. I've had one proper date since 2018, there's no hope of meeting other gay men where I live. I've even lived in different states in Australia and it's always the same, such a weird vibe. I always feel like whenever I travel to other countries for a visit I end up meeting people though? I'm really envious of people who have a thriving gay scene where they live because I feel like my biggest barrier is I struggle to communicate online/get through the small talk barrier. In a gay pub though? I always meet people because I'm just better at face to face communication.

I hope one day I can move somewhere else with an actual social scene nn, meeting guys for dates would be great, but even just more gay people as friends. I'm just always so alone.
I feel the same about struggling to get through all the small talk online I feel I am better in a face to face conversation more be it at a bar or coffee or something like that. I've booked myself a night away in a bigger city here that I know has a better gay scene. Just gonna go and try and just build up a little confidence again by trying to chat to guys in some of these bars. Is that something you'd ever consider?
 

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