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Considering becoming a catholic priest because it would honestly feel less humiliating than trying to mingle.
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It's not really possible for me, I'm only 40ish minutes from the main city here but there's no gay scene in this state, so I try to go on holiday once a year. Last year I went to Queensland for two weeks which is a four hour plane ride away and it was awesome visiting gay venues. I went to Manchester earlier this year and I honestly never wanted to leave, I'm going again next year for a month. But I always just return home feeling empty/like I'm missing out on everything nn.
Get a cat or dog before you do that. Honestly the loyalty and affection from your pet do so much!
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I have four cats and they're the love of my life but it's honestly not cutting it dd.
Ah fair enough!
Oh ok I am in Ireland sorry and I always just assume people in bigger countries have more of a choice but guess I never put in context the travel you have to do to get to these other cities and states. No one really has it easy think its just dating in this day and age like with a lot of things thats its gone so online makes its so much harder to make real connections. Message me anytime on here maybe sharing struggles about all this might help things not feel as heavy in our own heads
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When I was a child, my prompt answer to "how are the girls at school?" (the disgusting sexualization that the straights project onto children) was "I don't know, I'll be a priest". Now I kinda feel like I was onto something back then. Too bad catholicism is so mouldy and musty and tacky :(Southern Europe infecting your mind.
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A guy I've been seeing and really fancied has come out as a T*mmy R*binson stan
I feel this. I have good social skills but socializing makes me so internally uncomfortable. I constantly feel like I'm a shy high schooler again.
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I seem to keep dating guys that initially seem fantastic and get my sense of humour, then unravel to be weird.
Most recent started fab, then the red flags came when he couldn’t understand why I had he/him pronouns in my Instagram bio and that I’m ‘woke’ (how can anyone get annoyed by this? Bizarre) and then said pop music was awful. Shurrup Shurrup!
Most recent started fab, then the red flags came when he couldn’t understand why I had he/him pronouns in my Instagram bio and that I’m ‘woke’ (how can anyone get annoyed by this? Bizarre) and then said pop music was awful. Shurrup Shurrup!
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Or a cliff to throw themselves off of (as it's usually the tip of the iceberg of how they really feel towards most minorities)
POV: you hook up with a guy on Friday, it was hot and you had a nice chat, he agrees to keep in touch but then goes on to ignore you completely. Then, 72 hours later, on the brink of madness, you go all “what’s good” on him, only for him to finally come back out of the woodwork and say “yeah I don’t think we matched”. Without explaining why, of course. So in a desperate attempt to boost your self-esteem, you go on a deranged swiping spree on Tinder that leaves you feeling even more deflated and hollow. Good times!
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Having been to both sides of this coin, I would say do not take it personally and just see it as experience or think of it as a thing thD happened and not really think about it too much or what went wrong. Probably nothing went wrong just that this guy has other things on his mind.POV: you hook up with a guy on Friday, it was hot and you had a nice chat, he agrees to keep in touch but then goes on to ignore you completely. Then, 72 hours later, on the brink of madness, you go all “what’s good” on him, only for him to finally come back out of the woodwork and say “yeah I don’t think we matched”. Without explaining why, of course. So in a desperate attempt to boost your self-esteem, you go on a deranged swiping spree on Tinder that leaves you feeling even more deflated and hollow. Good times!
I always try to keep the adage that if they don't tell you what's up, it's more about them than it is about you. And that goes both ways, if I have issues with someone and I don't bring it up to them, then I gotta keep in mind that that may be more on me.
I similarly had an amazing all-night hookup on Thursday (into Friday), with him repeatedly discussing all the different things he wants to do with me on future occasions and pointing out how badly he wants to make it a recurring thing... cut to him ignoring my Instagram follow and my DMs not getting so much as a 'seen', while he continues to post about other things. As we're trying to assure @Mister_G it's definitely an 'it's him, not you' scenario, it's still tough not to take it personally.
Great hookup, though. A very 'I showed my friends, then we high-fived' scenario.
Great hookup, though. A very 'I showed my friends, then we high-fived' scenario.