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I get to see the person I'm kinda seeing again tomorrow! Was even told I can crash at his if I want to. I'm so excited aaaaaaaah
Of course, his coworker, who is also in his class, told me he had been sick for two weeks already. And he didn't communicate, though I texted him in the morning about it, and he did not respond. At least he picked up the phone when I called him to double-check, and he told me he was sick and stuff. But he still went to school because otherwise his attendance would be too low, and he would fail. These 19-year-old flops, why do I do this?
In other news... I had a fine date yesterday - no romatic attraction though and after getting drinks we went to dinner at this cute modern mexican restaurant it was godly. Such a fun vibe meeting new persons. Then we went to a local gay bar at the city which is everybody says is trashy but it was fine. There was a Turkish straight guy and we had some really good conversations - I was clear not to hit on him but it was so educational learning from him about stuff. Then there was a guy visiting for work and about to leave so I offered the seat next to me at the bar to him and he took it. We're talking, drinking, and suddenly making out. He had to get up early today so no coming along to his hotel but it was fun to get to know new people - he's from Australia and in an open relationship with his partner.
Long story short I had a great time and still got it ahah.
It went well! I got to spend nearly 24 hours with him and it was a great escape from the hell that is my reality at the moment. It's funny how much of a difference a month makes--Christmas 2024 was one of the worst days of my life but 25 January 2025 was one of the happiest in a long time. Seeing him again Friday!
(More friendship so technically relationship butttt) Texting how "it's been a busy week sorry for not texting" but they haven't been texting you
Nn i've been thinking about this since you posted. Did you do this while still on the date with the other guy? Did I read it incorrectly agjalgkag
Haha no he left after one drink at the bar.
Okay I was like, you get up to shenanigans but PLEASEEEE
I dropped a friend who said she has no time to hang out with me because of how stressful her job is after talking about how she was going to hang out with another friend that very night. Like, if you don't want to hang out with me in particular, just say so. I don't need the bullshit.
I was skiing a week with 2 friends from my group and 5 other guys I did not know too well - they live in the same city as one of my friends and a a group too: Then boom I develop crush feelings for one cuz he’s kind and sweet but just straight. A tale old as time..
They were all very happy we joined! It was a nice group, always skiing together and loved to party. When we went out; I of course go talk and dance with all the hens, and then I play rock paperscissors chug with them and after I matched the girls that liked my friends. They were very happy with that. Sadly, the amount of drinks they get and speed of it all... I need a liver transplant to survive next year.
I was talking a bit to the one I had a crush on and he was just sweet and interested in me, so my delusional self filled in all the blanks. Then he took a video of me skiing and was like it’s so fun the video is so good, then it just happened for me to go over the moon! We had our little funsies and of course I was always checking if he was laughing at my jokes (yes) and teasing on the slopes like stealing his gloves. Blushing!
But the good thing about it is that I did not act a fool or drama queen and grew over it by just focusing on Abracadabra! Wew.
We danced a bit when going out and that was nice. We took a pic together of him doing as gay as he could with me and I did give him a big long hug when we left, and that’s just what I’ll cherish.
C’mon growth!
They were all very happy we joined! It was a nice group, always skiing together and loved to party. When we went out; I of course go talk and dance with all the hens, and then I play rock paper
I was talking a bit to the one I had a crush on and he was just sweet and interested in me, so my delusional self filled in all the blanks. Then he took a video of me skiing and was like it’s so fun the video is so good, then it just happened for me to go over the moon! We had our little funsies and of course I was always checking if he was laughing at my jokes (yes) and teasing on the slopes like stealing his gloves. Blushing!
But the good thing about it is that I did not act a fool or drama queen and grew over it by just focusing on Abracadabra! Wew.
We danced a bit when going out and that was nice. We took a pic together of him doing as gay as he could with me and I did give him a big long hug when we left, and that’s just what I’ll cherish.
C’mon growth!
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Just got back from our 2nd date oop x
The guy I was supposed to date with canceled cuz he is “seriously dating someone else”… (yet I just came across him on another app). He is free to use any app he likes but it feels wrong.
Guess that’s what happens when we had to take 2 months or so between matching and getting a date due me having 2 holidays in between. Ah well.
Guess that’s what happens when we had to take 2 months or so between matching and getting a date due me having 2 holidays in between. Ah well.
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Starting to realise a quite major flaw in dating is that every romantic gesture that possibly exists is just lovebombing or some similar form of manipulation and humans are just sort of inherently deceptive and evil and the only ethical way to deal with that information is to just all fucking kill ourselves
One thing I’ve noticed a lot recently is people using lovebombing as a way to get you into bed before they ghost you. Saying things like “oh, this is going so well I wouldn’t normally have sex with someone the first time I meet them if it’s going so well, you seem so perfect for me” etc etc. I’ve stopped taking anything like that at face value.
It's certainly a thing to be mindful of but I don't think pathologizing every affectionate gesture as love bombing with an ulterior motive is healthy ddd
Flowers are nice! Some actual old school romance has done wonders for me and my partner actually feeling confident and comfortable, especially early on. Even keeping proper photographs rather than just 100% digital.
The irony poisoning sometimes just leads to that energy of everyone being so aloof they never let anyone in and people hurting others because its easier to hurt than to be the one hurt.
Its rough out there.
Flowers are nice! Some actual old school romance has done wonders for me and my partner actually feeling confident and comfortable, especially early on. Even keeping proper photographs rather than just 100% digital.
The irony poisoning sometimes just leads to that energy of everyone being so aloof they never let anyone in and people hurting others because its easier to hurt than to be the one hurt.
Its rough out there.
Inland Empire
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Is it psychological abuse to ask the girl I like if she'd like to watch Heart Eyes with me on Valentine's Day? I love Dr. Ramani Durvasula. I think she's a really interesting artist.
Two wolves live inside of me.
Ask her to see Wicked.
I hate men! Hate them!!