God, that song really affected me too back in the day (especially with the video). This reminds me how I love the fact that different people can get completely different things from the same lyric - I have always read that line as "are you happy, are you sad?" (with the implication that there isn't much between the two sometimes). The 'gay' Tori line that always got me was "is your place in heaven worth giving up these kisses?" from Cooling (still one of my favourite lines in a song ever, as it happens).