Do we really need a Random Thoughts thread? Thoughts.

Why is sex being treated like taboo? Yes there has been overshare at times but it's not like we're kids. Also when you were like 'THIS AINT SEXJUSTICE' everyone laughed and stopped talking about it.

 

Well, I have no doubt you do Someboy.

When do we ever see snide digs? Honestly? The only person I notice being bullied in Off Topic is playboy69 - other than that I think we're quite good. And if there are snide remarks they're in the fucking main forum if anything!! "You like Amelle? Ya nasty mothafucka!!" happens on a daily basis (and don't tell me to report because I KNOW you must be aware of the Sugababes threads).

And for the sexual details - big woop in my opinion. Most of us are adults and if not then they're teens who need somewhere to talk about that, especially seeing as most of us are gay. We'll have to just agree to disagree on that one. Intimate conversations like that actually make people bond.

 

I agree that this is not the place for sex talk, but when we were asked nicely to stop... we stopped.

 

This is just causing so much more drama than is needed - the thread should be re-opened so we can be done with this nonsense.

 

Many of us have volunteered for the moderator position when this conversation has arisen in the past. I do think part of the problem is the lack of visibility. The only moderator I can see regularly moderating is Someboy, and it's simply too big a task for one person or even the three that are remotely active.

And really, "It's just a pop forum." coming from a moderator on said pop forum? Isn't that excuse usually reserved for someone desperately losing an argument in Pop & Justice in their attempt to make the other person look bad? Come on. The majority want to see this forum thrive and grow healthily. Of course we're going to be invested in it. If you're going to take that attitude, why even bother locking it in the first place?

This is also the first I've heard of clique-y-ness being an issue. In fact, there have been several times that I've been more accomodating or light-hearted towards someone's opinion in Pop & Justice because of something I've read about them in Off-Topic, or because of something we've agreed on in the Lists & Charts forum. No one is excluding anyone, and the multitude of new members we've had who have integrated just fine are a testament to that. As always, we've had a few bad eggs, but what forum doesn't?

 

The Official Moral Compass of Popjustice has spoken, y'all!

 

I always knew Cheryl's breasts would save us.

 

Well yes and no.

There was an argument on the main board. This argument was stopped by Someboy. Members who were involved in that argument came to the Random Thoughts thread to discuss it and have a pop at the person they had been arguing with, there was also discussion about this persons condition. That was unacceptable to me, the thread was closed so people would be aware this is a no go area... like all threads are closed (sometimes temporarily, sometimes for good).

But it plays into a feeling from corners of the forum community (believe it or not Random Thoughts isn't the only hub of community) that the forum is insular and unwelcoming and there is a cliquey atmosphere and pack mentality. And a lot of members lay that at the door of the Off Topic community. And so when you've got members bitching about what went on the Gaga and having a pop at who they were arguing with it hardly dispels the theory. That for a person who only comes here to discuss pop music (which is the main point) it's not so much fun when you think other members are slagging you off in other threads for daring to think a bit different, or that the pack will all pounce on you. I'm not saying people are like that... but there is that perception and behaviour like that in Random Thoughts don't help much.

I do feel that a thread like random thoughts closes the community. It's the place for the more gregarious types with the loudest voices who probably facebook and tweet a lot... but that isn't the whole of the community. There also the community that is here to discuss pop music, that is brought together by that.

And the thing is you have to try and think of the forum as a whole... not just the vocal minority. That was my point, you try and moderate for the benefit of the board as a whole. There's only so much you pander to the vocal minority. You can try and continue to moderate the thread just so those who like it can still enjoy it... however if you think it's existence is having an negative effect on the board as a whole then if you're not invested in that one part you're not going to carry on working at it.

I accept I may have been a bit reactionary in closing it... it struck a nerve continuing to dig and make comments towards a fellow member who wasn't there to defend themselves especially when you start bringing up and commenting on their personal status... everyone here knows that's not right. And I knew it would get a reaction, that's why I asked the question.

It would be great if someone would step up and volunteer to moderate... maybe with a more specific focus on here. But nobody seems to want to do it.

 

So if I've got this right the thread was closed because a lot of gays were occasionally talking about their sex lives and being bitchy literally a few times a YEAR?

 

Because actually I'm probably a bit over sensitive to peoples feelings. I reacted to the fact that you and a few others just couldn't leave it alone with somebody. Someone who was clearly very sensitive and also was it autistic? And you just couldn't leave it or them could you? Despite the fact you'd been asked to end it. And it's not the first time.

Pop forum or not I'd feel the same. Maybe I am over sensitive but I'd say what it's over is worth more than a just a thread on a pop forum. I mean people have suggested I'm a liar, I think I've been long enough for people to not think that of me just because they don't agree with me. I mean that's a low blow.... and over the shutting of a thread? Seriously. I can accept I'm a pompous twat but what have I ever said or done to suggest I'm a liar?

And the thing is I fell genuine guilt over pissing so many people. I still don't know if I think I'm my opinion but I really do feel shitty.

 

Yeah a thread was closed.

But whatever, if you want it open so be it.... sorry.

 

The surest way to make people feel like there is a clique running the place is to close down a thread, effecting everyone, when a few individuals are seemingly misbehaving.

The least effective way to avoid an unwelcome, insular atmosphere is to close the threads for more universal topics and force people into the "Which Sugababe hairstyle is the worst?" thread.

I still don't understand why anyone would chose to deal with a few people by closing a thread in which the original arguments didn't even occur and actually drawing MORE people into the drama, rather than making a public warning to / dealing with / banning etc the individuals involved in the actual relevant thread initially.

Speaking as someone who is not part of a clique and also as an adult, I am perplexed.

 

Thank you.

 

What a shame. That thread needed to be closed and shouldnt have been re opened; it was a basically at the point of closing a circle jerk for some of the most horrible, immature people on the forum.

 

Maybe, maybe not. The thing is other people are complaining that people are being warned privately so no-one knows what people are doing wrong therefore how can they know... also that it gives the impression no-one is being punished.

But if you do it publicly... then do you single people out? Then you feel like you're picking on them... I dunno.

I disagree.

With smaller more subject driven thread you're constantly communicating with a variety of diverse groups with different dynamics. Universal/general thread are generally the same group of people.

 

I'm not sure what exactly happened but I'm not outraged it's been closed. I can only blame the ones who posted the stuff to get it to such a level that Peter has to intervene.

Messy.

 

I'm inclined to disagree. In my experience moderating a brief extract on the nature of the circumstance did wonders, please find such a remark below:

It's to the point, establishes the situation but does not come across in an aggressive manner.