Jesy Nelson

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She’s literally gone into the studio. That’s it. She’s hardly on the verge of releasing her first album at this stage. Maybe she just wanted to go in because it’s her passion and wanted to have some fun. Maybe nothing will ever come of it.

Whatever happens I wish her the very best. I love her to bits.
 
This thread when it turns out she did an “H and Claire”.

I’m looking forward to seeing what direction she goes in musically, but if any pop star thinks that going solo means the spotlight won’t be so harsh on them (especially a female pop star) then literally turn to Billie Piper’s autobiography and Britney Spears Unframed.
 
This thread when it turns out she did an “H and Claire”.

I’m looking forward to seeing what direction she goes in musically, but if any pop star thinks that going solo means the spotlight won’t be so harsh on them (especially a female pop star) then literally turn to Billie Piper’s autobiography and Britney Spears Unframed.
I'm not sure this thinking is fair to Jesy (and you're definitely not the only person I've seen with this mentality). She has quite specifically articulated that it was being in a band and feeling constantly compared to her fellow members that was a big trigger for her. She is intelligent enough to know that these comparisons will still exist in the media/social media but it's fair to assume on a personal level for her it will provide some reprieve (not constantly being photographed & filmed with the other girls).

We also don't even know the full story behind why she left, she just said the pressure of being in a girl group was too much. Maybe she felt being beholden to the ambitions of 3 other people and committing to excessive working was too much for her.

I wish her well, would absolutely love a solo album from her.
 
I'm not sure this thinking is fair to Jesy (and you're definitely not the only person I've seen with this mentality). She has quite specifically articulated that it was being in a band and feeling constantly compared to her fellow members that was a big trigger for her. She is intelligent enough to know that these comparisons will still exist in the media/social media but it's fair to assume on a personal level for her it will provide some reprieve (not constantly being photographed & filmed with the other girls).

We also don't even know the full story behind why she left, she just said the pressure of being in a girl group was too much. Maybe she felt being beholden to the ambitions of 3 other people and committing to excessive working was too much for her.

I wish her well, would absolutely love a solo album from her.

The thing is, that attention she had being compared to her band mates will just change. As much as (and taking the Britney doc as an example) people say looking at mental health in a 2021 lens. Jesy is proof that while in the eye of the storm, the media/social media glare is as intense as ever. I just hope Jesy can handle the criticism on say the actual music. It’s a bit easier to shrug off if someone says your music is “shit” if you’re in a group, (the pop star might well think the same) but it’s another when it’s your solo work that every note on it is yours.
 
I would be more excited for this than I'm for new LM music, so I hope something comes out of it.

I think a big advantage of not being in a group is not having to fear that you let other people down. She's more free in deciding what she wants to do and in setting boundaries for herself. Her releasing solo music wouldn't be contradicting to what she wrote in her statement.
 
The thing is, that attention she had being compared to her band mates will just change. As much as (and taking the Britney doc as an example) people say looking at mental health in a 2021 lens. Jesy is proof that while in the eye of the storm, the media/social media glare is as intense as ever. I just hope Jesy can handle the criticism on say the actual music. It’s a bit easier to shrug off if someone says your music is “shit” if you’re in a group, (the pop star might well think the same) but it’s another when it’s your solo work that every note on it is yours.
She’s been in this business for 10 years. I don’t think for a second that she’s thinking “Oh great, now I’m out of that group so there’s absolutely no pressure/eyes on me/scrutiny.” But that specific concoction of it, Little Mix’s constant and intense release/tour schedule, being constantly compared to the other three, etc. proved to be more than she wanted to deal with. Think about Zayn. Of course he still felt pressure for being a former member of one of the biggest boy bands in the world, but he does things at his own time, and on his own schedule (much to the dismay of his fans dddddd).
 
This was mentioned in the other thread but I do think another factor of her leaving might be to do with the material Little Mix were putting out. She probably wanted to have more freedom to venture out into a more mature R&B sound as she prefers that kind of music.
 

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I just feel a little defensive because of the amount of people out-right attacking her as though her mental health struggles have all been some ploy for a solo career.
Scream, it's always the precious stans that first glamorize then weaponize "mental health" against their faves when said fave isn't doing what the stans militantly decide to be appropriate. One second it's "protect Jesy at all costs!" but the second she makes choices of her own, that narrative suddenly becomes a reason to send her to the guillotine. It's why I don't really care for the opinions of stans or the GP when it comes to nuanced conversations about mental health. At some point it's clear that stans only engage the topic for purely self-serving purposes. It's literally become a buzz phrase for people which ends up leaving people struggling with mental health even more vulnerable and uncomfortable.

At the end of it, Jesy left a group she's been involved with for nearly a decade. She's documented in video form her struggles over that period, which primarily came from being in said group - which led her to suicidal ideation on more than a few occasions - all for the approval of people-behind-keyboards that consistently demanded that she be a certain way simply to be deemed 'acceptable' for them, then after all that, she, like everyone else on this planet, endured a pandemic, and along with things that she is not obligated to disclose to anyone browsing this forum or buying their music, made a personal decision for herself to stop and change her path. She's likely still making her choices as she goes along, which...is her right. It's weird how many people are calling her "shady" "conniving", a "liar", when that's really just y'all subbing in adjectives to justify the plotlines in your heads. She has a right to do whatever she wants on her own, whether that ends up being music, presenting, or dancing. If y'all really cared for her like you said you did while she was in the group, it's probably a better display of character to show her some decency rather than disdain. No one here really knows her story or even has a right to demand that she offer up anything to make them like her choices more.
 
I feel like people keep forgetting that being a pop star is a ... job. If you had to leave a high-pressure team-based job due to your mental health issues, but found a similar job that allows you to work on your own for a bit and feel much better mentally, would you not take it?
 
She has quite specifically articulated that it was being in a band and feeling constantly compared to her fellow members that was a big trigger for her.

I don't know that I would say this has been SPECIFICALLY articulated after a VT in Week 4 of X-Factor. I think you can read between the lines and interpret her leaving statement in this way, but I would say most statements on the matter, and even the dialogue in the documentary focused more on the general price of fame for any woman specifically rather than the comparison with bandmates. Either way, she doesn't really owe us an explanation, so good for her and good for the fans - more music for everyone is always a win in my book.
 
It’s the fickle nature of fans that really frustrates me.

November: ‘So proud of Jesy!’
February: ‘It’s too soon’, ‘I’m disappointed in her!!’, ‘what about her mental health?!?!’

Honestly, if it’s this exhausting to witness, I can’t imagine what it’s like for her having to life it.
 
Damn, she went full Pete Burns.
She's mixed race.
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