He/Him
Oh interesting. Thanks.
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Oh my God, are you me? In my head I want to be this liberated gay man, enjoying the breadth of sexual experiences on offer. And then it comes to actually doing it and there's just this block. I go back and forth on why this is. Sometimes I think it's something inside me that needs to be overcome and then other times I feel like maybe this is just me? Like, I always feel like I should give my body to someone who deserves it, so maybe casual encounters just aren't my thing. But honestly, I do not know what the right answer is.
She/Her
I mean sex is just sex - airport or not as long as you're getting it, it should be fine? I won't look too deep into it.
I mean if it means anything, it means that you care about who you choose to swap salivas with and that you have standards that most of us don't have here ALDJLFFKEDJKFJFJJ
Nah, I'd be the same. Sounds hot, but I'd just be too nerve wracked to enjoy it.
I have tried it years and years ago and nothing makes a dick flop faster than someone entering the adjacent stall to deposit the loudest, smelliest shit.
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he/him
It's like you've crawled into my mind and taken the words straight from my mouth. I properly freeze up if anyone gives me any interest because I can't fathom that they may actually want to do anything with me.
londonrain
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I mean… cruise bars and saunas/bathhouses are specifically created for just this.
An airport toilet is just not going to be anywhere as fun. I would not be feeling bad about turning that down! If you want this bad enough you can wait until we’re somewhere with better options.
Right, we have very few of those in the US thanks to puritanical overlords.
Honestly I think about hookup culture in the gay community all the time, like hooking up before a flight at an airport... nightmare inducing for me. Even just randomly chatting to someone on Grindr and an hour later being at their house, unless I'm outrageously drunk I just wouldn't dream of it.
I'm not judging the people that do, there's nothing wrong with it. I just wonder why it comes so naturally to so many people I know when I really struggle to just go and hook up with a stranger. Even my last one night stand in Manchester we'd been out the entire day/night after meeting in a pub and we'd gotten to know each other/had a laugh.
I think I'm okay with being old and grey and missing out on dick though, it rarely lives up to the hype and most of the time I'd just rather have a pizza and a pint with someone than have sex (is there something wrong with me ddd)
I'm not judging the people that do, there's nothing wrong with it. I just wonder why it comes so naturally to so many people I know when I really struggle to just go and hook up with a stranger. Even my last one night stand in Manchester we'd been out the entire day/night after meeting in a pub and we'd gotten to know each other/had a laugh.
I think I'm okay with being old and grey and missing out on dick though, it rarely lives up to the hype and most of the time I'd just rather have a pizza and a pint with someone than have sex (is there something wrong with me ddd)
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He/Him
I think the moral of this story is everyone needs to be a little kinder and softer with themselves. Some of y'all are such assholes to yourself!
Give yourselves some grace girls! If you wouldn't say to a friend or someone on the forrem, then don't let your internal monologue direct it towards yourself either!
Easier said then done but if you start practicing it with intention it becomes easier over time I promise <3
Give yourselves some grace girls! If you wouldn't say to a friend or someone on the forrem, then don't let your internal monologue direct it towards yourself either!
Easier said then done but if you start practicing it with intention it becomes easier over time I promise <3
In my experience, more often than not guys on apps are talking a big game but rarely anticipate follow through. It's easy to be hot and horny over messages but the second it comes to logistics it's like everyone is working from an abacus all the sudden. I think it's a symptom of so much of our formative years being spend fantasizing and imagining scenarios that would never transpire, it's this exchange of 'wouldn't it be hot if' with 'if' being the operative word. There's a good chance this guy was just horny and wouldn't have followed through because, you know, public bathroom!
It's healthy to reflect on our apprehensions and where they stem from but also I don't think it has to be so deep either every time. We all have different capacities for spontaneity especially with sex, and I think getting out of the scarcity mindset that you're going to run out of chances will facilitate a healthy outlet where you can be a little less risk averse without being reckless.
Everything changed for me when I realised random hookups just don't, like, nourish me on any level. It scratches an itch but that's simply all it is, and once I started calming down and doing a lot less of it I realised I actually don't really miss it that much, and I'm not missing out on anything in the grand scheme of things.
It's a huge part of gay culture and history but also having the agency and self preservation to just be like "maybe it's not for me, and it's not good for me, and it stresses me the fuck out" is totally fine. Lemme just put that energy towards slaying in other ways.
It's a huge part of gay culture and history but also having the agency and self preservation to just be like "maybe it's not for me, and it's not good for me, and it stresses me the fuck out" is totally fine. Lemme just put that energy towards slaying in other ways.
It's not lame at all, if it didn't feel right to you it didn't feel right. If you had gone through with it just because you felt you should that would've been 1000% worse.
Someone messaged me on Saturday night at the Janet Jackson concert to ask if I wanted to blow them, during the show. I *might* have been tempted but not after the amount I paid for my ticket ddd.
90s/00s Janet would’ve approved
he/him/basic cishomo
This is LISA's doing I just know it! It's literally 2024, but better late than never, and I'd rather see this than what's currently emerging on this front in most Western countries.
She/Her
This King loves Berlin. Obviously, this law passed during his reign. Long live King Maha!
I've been in a LTR, but I never enjoyed casual hookups in my 20's, and kind of felt FOMO.
But now I've realised I'm a pansexual demisexual - and I'm fine with that.