So I've had Rina's "Bad Friend" stuck in my head the past day or two because it's finally struck with me. I am the bad friend.
People who follow my antics on the relationships thread will know that I had been talking to/kinda seeing someone. Well, I got too attached, too quick. And he ended up saying that he needed some space and would speak to me again when he was ready but not a moment before. I decided that day to get obnoxiously drunk to the point I had a panic attack in the street at 3am and my brain decided that spam calling because I was scared at that time was the best course of action. It wasn't. I woke up very hungover the next morning to find I had (justifiably) been blocked on everything.
The worst part? "Him" as the person I liked...I'm not that fussed over losing? There will always be another crush. But "Him" as the friend? Losing that fucking hurts. A lot. Not many friends have left the positive impact on my life in such a short time as he did and I just went on and fucked it.
This isn't the first time something like this has happened. I'd say it's a bit too common of an occurance in my life. The good in this is that I think I've finally pinpoited the main problem and that's that I don't have any self worth, so I always seek validation externally. Unless someone else says "Hey yeah Kazzy's alright" I won't think I am. Which obviously is not good. It's something I'm going to be looking inwards at to try and solve. This guy helped me find confidence in myself that I had never felt before, so I'm going to try keep the momentum from that pushing me forward.
Obviously part of this is still raw because it's so recent but I just feel haunted by it. I know I should just forget him, focus on my self improvement, and look towards the future. But it's hard when I know that a lot of the self improvement started with his encouragement to find myself. Sorry for the rant, it's just easier for me to write my feelings out and I thought that if I shared here someone may relate to this. Cheers.