The Workplace & Job Hunting
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I’m so sorry to hear this! The sad thing is, organisation and paperwork is now crucial to teaching- it’s draining and sucks the life out of it all. Sending hugs.
It's an incredibly tough job as it is in the teaching world, but add on the performative positivity needed 5 days a week when your not feeling up to it and it really takes a toll. When you are struggling it becomes exasperating having a large audience to try and mask it from everyday, I can relate hard to what your saying.
I had a really rocky two years through covid and got to the point where I didn't want to speak to anyone or even get out of bed, several hospital visits and it came after a great year prior where I felt really connected with the school and students, so being in a work environment where I couldn't have a moment to really process what I was going through was tough.
In the end I decided even though I had no idea what to do next I was done with teaching. I had packed my life up to move abroad years ago and had so much anxiety about a feeling of 'failure' at returning. I literally moved back home at 30 with no money, decided to not let my inner voices and my anxiety of not having a 'career'/the judgement that comes with it affect me anymore and spent all this time on my mental health and studying again.
Almost a year on I have been offered a chance to start over in something completely different, in a new city, we did it girls! This time a year ago I didn't think I was going to have such an opportunity again, so choosing yourself and your own happiness is so important!
I had a really rocky two years through covid and got to the point where I didn't want to speak to anyone or even get out of bed, several hospital visits and it came after a great year prior where I felt really connected with the school and students, so being in a work environment where I couldn't have a moment to really process what I was going through was tough.
In the end I decided even though I had no idea what to do next I was done with teaching. I had packed my life up to move abroad years ago and had so much anxiety about a feeling of 'failure' at returning. I literally moved back home at 30 with no money, decided to not let my inner voices and my anxiety of not having a 'career'/the judgement that comes with it affect me anymore and spent all this time on my mental health and studying again.
Almost a year on I have been offered a chance to start over in something completely different, in a new city, we did it girls! This time a year ago I didn't think I was going to have such an opportunity again, so choosing yourself and your own happiness is so important!
I really needed to read this. Currently waiting to be told whether I'm eligible for a liver transplant because of a rare auto-immune disease. I don't know when or even if I'll get a transplant but the thought of going back into teaching's current landscape whilst recovering just feels impossible.
I'm so happy for you that you were able to start over.
Thanks a lot, it's been a long healing process but I think when it comes to your wellbeing and navigating the current teaching world it is very difficult to emotionally reconnect with the job in an environment where there's so little privacy and autonomy which can end up creating resentment from all the time you needed your own space, but were surrounded by hundreds of people every day that maybe don't even notice, but at the same time being anxious someone will notice what's up or make a comment.
Having the time to purely focus on yourself at a pace of just thinking about solely about the next steps in that moment that will help you and really leaning into your family/friends sounds like something so obvious but when you're used to the teaching space and managing so many peoples expectations it can be a big adjustment at first, but the amount of friends who I've seen a new lease of life in and vice versa since leaving has been very noticeable and that's not to say some won't go back into teaching in the future or find their love for it again, just having that time to really get the bounce in your step back is so essential.
Having the time to purely focus on yourself at a pace of just thinking about solely about the next steps in that moment that will help you and really leaning into your family/friends sounds like something so obvious but when you're used to the teaching space and managing so many peoples expectations it can be a big adjustment at first, but the amount of friends who I've seen a new lease of life in and vice versa since leaving has been very noticeable and that's not to say some won't go back into teaching in the future or find their love for it again, just having that time to really get the bounce in your step back is so essential.
Someone in the freezer department quit months ago and we've been doing their entire delivery since which always adds an extra 1-2 hours onto our shifts and team morale has been really low lately, we're all over it.
Anyway my boss said to the entire team today that we all need to "stop complaining" and that "you are a nightfill team that fills and does whatever tasks are required at night".
To which I replied with "that's fine, but we're also a nightfill team that's meant to finish at 8:45pm according to the roster, not past 10. So in the future I will be leaving at my rostered time"
Anyway my boss said to the entire team today that we all need to "stop complaining" and that "you are a nightfill team that fills and does whatever tasks are required at night".
To which I replied with "that's fine, but we're also a nightfill team that's meant to finish at 8:45pm according to the roster, not past 10. So in the future I will be leaving at my rostered time"
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My boss wouldn’t let me go for a one month clean break (eventhough I offered to have weekly check ins with my staff) and she told me to just take some days off and work remote in between even if I’m gonna be in totally different timezones. I don’t know how I’m gonna wiggle my way around this.
But this’ll be me replying to work messages and emails at the club at 3am from Paris/Barcelona/Stockholm etc.
But this’ll be me replying to work messages and emails at the club at 3am from Paris/Barcelona/Stockholm etc.
Ehmmm? Report it to HR? If you have your free days you can take them unless they have some shitty policy about it.My boss wouldn’t let me go for a one month clean break (eventhough I offered to have weekly check ins with my staff) and she told me to just take some days off and work remote in between even if I’m gonna be in totally different timezones. I don’t know how I’m gonna wiggle my way around this.
But this’ll be me replying to work messages and emails at the club at 3am from Paris/Barcelona/Stockholm etc.
Got a job interview on Tuesday at the school I went to when I was a kid. Gonna be interesting to see how things have changed. I will probably not tell the principal about it until after I get hired - if I get hired, and if I still want the job. As this school is in the same town I'm currently working in, I can't get a raise, so I'm still looking for available jobs in neighboring towns.
Contemplating asking work if I can pretty much work from home permanently (or maybe just go into the office once or twice a month) so I can move to Manchester.
It might be met with raised eyebrows but with hybrid working it's more than do-able, especially as half of the team work in the Midlands and half of the team work down South and some team members seem to get away with barely going into the office (which pisses me off).
My hope is they might panic and think I'll jump ship if they say no.
It might be met with raised eyebrows but with hybrid working it's more than do-able, especially as half of the team work in the Midlands and half of the team work down South and some team members seem to get away with barely going into the office (which pisses me off).
My hope is they might panic and think I'll jump ship if they say no.
At the risk of sounding patronising - even if it's scary as hell, do it! Because these things become a lot harder as you get older and those types of opportunities don't arise. It's so easy to get stuck in a career/job that you never really wanted in the first place.
You're supposed to ask people? I just put them down and hope for the best fff
Yeah, you ask the references beforehand when are you applying, if they are willing to be a reference for you. The application usually states that they want references. When you get the first interview, then you ask your references to let them know beforehand, as you give their details to someone they probably do not know and let them know in advance it might happen soon.
The references I have on my CV are former co-workers I still stay in touch with from time-to-time, I do wonder if they would rather have people from a newer workplace though because I've had two jobs since I updated them dd
I usually just get a message from one of them like "someone called me for a reference today for you!". I should probably let them know beforehand nn
Just quit my job because this company is run by fucking disney adults who are so full of shit, inconsistent and inadequate but then want to shift responsibility to us managers without even consulting us or bothering to listen to what we think about the stores WE run.
I knew when I took the promotion that it would be an uphill battle but I never once imagined they'd be as full of shit as they are. This is America, prices have never been higher and they really were trying to make me FIRE GOOD workers with NO misconduct on their records when others have been written up or simply given second chances for far worse offenses (for example, DRINKING/COCAINE ON THE JOB. SLEEPING ON THE JOB. CONSTANT TARDIES.) and because I didn't want to be their fucking lapdog and stood up for my staff they tried to shift blame for a "bad secret shop" onto me and tell me to step down.
Okay I'm not just stepping down i'm stepping out and you can all go fuck yourselves because your establishment is garbage and I'm tired of dealing with it. It simply would not have sat right in my soul to get rid of someone for having a bad mental day and not giving 110% service like they normally ALWAYS do.
I knew when I took the promotion that it would be an uphill battle but I never once imagined they'd be as full of shit as they are. This is America, prices have never been higher and they really were trying to make me FIRE GOOD workers with NO misconduct on their records when others have been written up or simply given second chances for far worse offenses (for example, DRINKING/COCAINE ON THE JOB. SLEEPING ON THE JOB. CONSTANT TARDIES.) and because I didn't want to be their fucking lapdog and stood up for my staff they tried to shift blame for a "bad secret shop" onto me and tell me to step down.
Okay I'm not just stepping down i'm stepping out and you can all go fuck yourselves because your establishment is garbage and I'm tired of dealing with it. It simply would not have sat right in my soul to get rid of someone for having a bad mental day and not giving 110% service like they normally ALWAYS do.